Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, many of us stopped playing. As children, we naturally explored, invented, and collaborated through games and imaginative activities. We weren’t worried about outcomes or appearances—we were simply present, curious, and open to new experiences. Yet as we grew older, the space for play in our lives shrank under the weight of “adult” responsibilities. Eventually the free time we do have is spent zoning out in front of the TV, scrolling through our phones, or numbing ourselves in other ways. Does this sound familiar?
It certainly resonates with me at different points in my own adulthood. Somewhere along the way, I forgot that play wasn’t just for kids. However, whenever I observe the beauty of children at play, I am reminded of the importance of being fully present, of the creativity of transforming ordinary moments into adventures, and the lesson of learning to bounce back from setbacks with silliness or laughter. By embracing a child’s sense of wonder and willingness to experiment, we can rediscover the joy and growth that come from playful experiences. When approached with intention, playful moments can prove to be a powerful source of relaxation, creativity, and renewal for people of all ages.
What Is Play, Really?
Play is more than a list of activities—it’s a state of mind. It’s about being fully absorbed in something enjoyable, where time seems to stand still and the world fades away. Play is self-chosen and self-directed. It is internally motivated and satisfying, meaning you do it simply because you want to, not because you have to. The degree to which you enjoy any form of play depends on how fully the activity engages you, how much you choose it for yourself, and the delight it brings to you personally.
Put simply—play sparks your imagination, strengthens problem-solving skills, and supports emotional well-being. It helps you step away from work and obligations, letting you connect with others or enjoy solitude in a relaxed, expansive way. Play is a break from daily pressures, a chance to rediscover your lighter side, and lean into ease. When you give yourself permission to play with the enthusiasm of childhood, it can unlock a host of benefits like easing tension, boosting your mood, deepening relationships, and even sharpening your thinking.
Ready to play?
If you’re unsure where to start, think back to what you loved as a child. What made you lose track of time? What activities made you feel most alive? Try weaving some of those joyful moments back into your routine. Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to play. Whether it’s being silly with friends, painting, dancing, or simply enjoying a walk outdoors, what matters is how it makes you feel. Your mind, body, and spirit will thank you—and you might just inspire the young people around you to keep playing, too.
Reference: Brown, S., & Vaughan, C. (2009). Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul. Penguin Books.
