April 9, 2026
On the second Wednesday of every month, a remarkable gathering happens at the Perry Family Clinic. This month, the Umoja magazine visited the Wednesday Check-in, an event that serves as a heartfelt sanctuary for Black men to come together, share their experiences, and connect with one another. For just over 2 years, there is a certain energy that fills the room, welcoming about twenty (sometimes more) men who come to engage in open dialogue about life’s challenges, successes, and disappointments. There is no age requirement, but it appeared that being 60 years old would be rather young.
Chuck Billings, a familiar face at these gatherings, stood up, blew his whistle and initiated a call-and-response that reverberated through the space. Everyone stopped, turned to Chuck and repeated…
Is everybody with me? Yeah! Are you with me? Yeah
What’s the matter with the team? The team’s alright! What’s the matter with the team? The team’s alright! What’s the matter with the team? The team’s alright! Who said so? Everybody! Who Everybody!
The stories shared during the Check-in captured the collective history of these men. Many reflected on the challenges they faced over the past month, each encounter coloring their narratives with threads of strength and vulnerability. Fred Conley spoke passionately about participating in workout sessions, while Chuck McDowell quietly played a game of bid whist. Mandela Barnes, the gubernatorial candidate dropped by for an informal visit, listened then joined in the conversations.
As the stories flowed, Ed Murray, suddenly stood, his voice steady yet filled with emotion “Let’s take a moment to give thanks,” he said, prompting a hush that fell over the room. He prayed from his heart, expressing gratitude for the men assembled. “Thank you, God, for this gathering, for the ability to connect, share, and uplift one another in this space.” His words resonated deeply, punctuating the gathering with a sense of reverence and community.
Bantering started up again, voices carried from table to table with some shade (with smiles) being thrown back and forth. Dwight Baines reminisced about friendships formed in childhood, recalling how those connections have shaped their present lives. The men nodded in agreement, recognizing the truth in their shared history. They spoke of losses and triumphs, all while building one another up, reminding each other that they are not alone in their endeavors.
The genesis of this gathering stemmed from a conversation between Joe McClain and his nephew Duke McClain. Joe expressed his frustration at not being able to see old friends on the regular. Duke, inspired by the desire to reconnect, approached Aaron Perry, who graciously offered the space at the Rebalanced-Life Wellness Association for this monthly gathering. Perry commented, “Everyone should feel at home here.” In the background the music began to play. Old jams filled the room which further invigorated the atmosphere. There were pats on the back and happy exchanges as old friends reconnected over shared meals and memories. In this safe space, the men found not just encouragement but also motivation.
The Wednesday Check-in was more than just a meeting; it was a celebration of brotherhood and resilience. In a world that often seems divided, this gathering offered a refreshing reminder of the power of community. As the afternoon drew to a close, the men left with smiles on their faces and warmth in their hearts, knowing that they would reconvene next month to continue their journey together.
Umoja, meaning unity, is exactly what takes place each month. If you have a desire to play cards, bones, share stories, offer encouragement and be ready for an afternoon of laughs… just reach out to Duke who can provide you specific information and updates. He will give you his synopsis of the Wednesday Check-In by saying… “Guys come with walkers or canes ready to enjoy the moment. Many smiling faces and happiness being in spaces for older Black men. There are conversations about current events including politics, economics, education, hobbies and family matters. Some guys have lost a spouse or significant other and they find support in the group. To be honest the meet up has been better than anything I expected.” (mcclaindennis62@gmail.com)
The Wednesday Check-in is a beacon of hope, reminding all who attended of the strength found in fellowship among men sharing life’s journeys.
